Memories can be therapeutic. Memories can sorrowful. Memories can be lost and forgotten. Memories can bring closure and help us move forward. And in time, memories can warm our soul.
Soon my husband and I will be diving into some home remodeling that will require virtually everything removed from our home in some way or another. A perfect opportunity to retackle my year long project of decluttering.
Yesterday, when I picked out my mug for my morning coffee, it brought me back to a year ago, when I purchased that mug. It was at a cute coffee shop in a small town we visited, when attending my cousin’s wedding. In fact, it was at a coffee shop she frequents with her husband. My mind wondered to the place, the time, family, and the fact that next month she will be celebrating her one year anniversary. Happy thoughts. Yes, this mug carries a valuable memory.
This remodel project (that we will NOT be doing personally), is an opportunity to rethink what my home and possessions mean to me, to us. The designer we met with yesterday asked me about our home and décor. What I described were items displayed from places we’ve visited. Items that bring back happy memories. Memories that make me smile. As I mulled this over with my husband, it helped us to rethink what we want and how we want to proceed.
It’s not about fancy or expensive to me. It’s about what will last, what is clean and beachy, outdoorsy. Open and bright spaces bring me energy and calm. And seeing things around me that remind me of happy places and special people.
As we look around our home, it should be filled with what reminds us of who we are inside, where we’ve been, what we’ve done, and where we dream to go or accomplish in the future. It should remind us of family and those we love and cherish.
I hope I can keep this in focus and let go of what has little meaning to either of us.
After our meeting yesterday, it started to change my focus. What brought me trepidation and dread a few weeks ago, is now getting me excited! Oh, I don’t want to have to move everything for this project. But if I eliminate, and reflect on the joy of my surroundings, I’m hoping the new space will feel open, bright, and less cluttered. I want to relax and feel happy and secure in my home.
And I will continue to enjoy the items in my house and reflect on memories of travel, sunny beaches, special family times, even precious family pets and people who are no longer with us. Sad thoughts can lead to happy memories.
Most of all, I hope our home brings us peace and inspires us to create new memories for ourselves and those we love.
It’s great to reminisce about good memories of my past. It was enjoyable when it was today. So learning to enjoy today has two benefits: it gives me happiness right now, and it becomes a good memory later.